The Days Of Future Passed

“You decide which is right, and which is an illusion.” That’s from an album by the amazing Moody Blues. It’s called “Days Of Future Passed.” I was reminded of it by a note from a special young relative of mine by the name of Sarah. The note says, “I’ve been learning some things. I’ve learned that even the one person in the world who wasn’t ever supposed to let you down, probably will let you down. I’ve experienced what it’s like to have my heart broken a couple of times, and it’s harder every time. I know I’m going to have to break somebody’s heart tonight, and I’ll be as gentle as I can be, because I remember how it felt when mine was broken. And I just had a fight with my best friend…it made me feel so alone.”


Sarah is a very bright and happy kid. She’s in the April of her life…wearing her first high heels and lipstick. When she gets scared or confused, she’s very quickly able to see the light at the end of the tunnel…and she uses it to fix her hair in the mirror. As I said…she’s special.


Sarah’s note is, in a way, one of those “Days Of Future Past”. Our family lost one of our own. And Sarah’s note was a bright spot in an otherwise very dark week.


It’s like Big Louie, his own bad self, the Chief Mustard Cutter of the Louie-Louie Generation always says: “Kids can’t be responsible for not knowing what it’s like to be grown-ups. But grown-ups are idiots when we forget what it’s like being kids.” It’s a statistical fact that kids laugh three times as often as grown ups. I think that’s because they’re looking at us, and they see us more clearly than we see ourselves. And what they tell each other is that the emperor has no clothes on…and “Look at that ! He’s out of Viagra too.” Laughs are the weapons of choice for kids. And they should be for the Louie-Louie Generation too.


When I was a kid, I learned that you can’t make a girl fall in love with you, but you can make her fall in laugh with you…and that’s almost as good. Because once she starts laughing, you can smile, and very quietly say something like, “can I tell you something in complete confidence ?” That will make her lean over closer to you so she can hear better…and you say something like, “You are very beautiful.” Now, she looked in the mirror before she went out, and mostly she liked what she saw, but there were some little doubts…which you have now cleared up…which will bring you your justly deserved reward in heaven… or maybe a little sooner…in your apartment.


Things like that you had to learn for yourself. But most of what you learned came from your mother. Mom taught you about thinking ahead. “Wear clean underwear in case you’re in an accident.” She taught you about determination. “You’ll sit there until you eat every one of those peas.” She taught you the facts of life. “When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.” And she taught you about social justice. “Eat your dinner. Think about the poor starving children in Tasmania.”


And of course there’s always the wisdom of Big Louie, his own bad self. He likes to remind us that there are benefits to getting older. For example, you don’t have to worry about your friends keeping your secrets, because they can’t remember them anyway. You’re a safer driver because you no longer look at the speed limit as a challenge. People no longer view you as a hypochondriac, because you’re supposed to look like that at your age. Your eyes really can’t get much worse. And there aren’t too many more things for you to learn the hard way.


Sarah’s smart, bright note was a big help around here. It’s been a tough week. We lost a family member. So we needed a little cheering up. And her note did it.


Dick’s Details Quiz. (All the answers are in the current podcast.


1-    What effect did the name “Lake Titticaca” have on the face of the guy who thought it up ?

2-    Why did coal miner’s wives like guys with weak backs ?

3-    What did a woman do for Lyndon Johnson that no woman ever did for a president before or since ?

Dick’s Details. They take your mind off your mind.


Big Louie, his own bad self always says, “Monkeys gibber, lions roar, and people preach.” I hate being preached at. That’s one of the reasons I was never very good at going to church. So I don’t want to be the guy doing the preaching either. But Sarah’s note got me to thinking about a bunch of ideas I put together a long time ago, when I was trying to explain some things to her mom. I put them in the Lovin Touch Personal Audio cd, but I almost never play it…because…I don’t want to preach. I hate preaching. But maybe…maybe it’s not preaching, because I really believe it. The story is called, You Shine. If you like it, you can just keep the current podcast, or if you want a fresh copy, just go back to the home page, and download it from the Lovin Touch icon.


It’s been a tough week for the family. We lost a very important person. So Sarah’s note is especially welcome. She’s a bright and wonderful kid in the April of her life. Of course we know she’s going to make mistakes. She’s going to blame her current boyfriend for the mistakes the guy before him made. She’s going to hurt and get hurt. She’s going to lose someone she loves…she did that this week. But she likes to laugh. And she’s the kind of kid who never gives up. Never, never, never. In kindergarten, she decided to try for the world’s record for holding your breath…and she literally passed out trying.


Sarah is the future. Her note was such a help this week, when we lost a member of the family.


Days Of Future Passed. I think there’s always hope when the dreams of the immediate future are kinder than the history of the recent past.

One Response to “The Days Of Future Passed”

  1. AliasJean Fox says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss. Can you say more about it?
    Sarah sounds like she’s a chip off the ol’ block — yours. Good for her! She has a heart and mind like yours. I hope she finds a love like you did too.

    — AJ —