Some really great answers to the “Grateful Woman or Sinful Woman” question in www.dicksummer.com/podcast Here’s one of the best from a trusted Proud Podcast Participant:
Re the woman in your story whose husband stopped paying attention:
I don’t think it was gratefulness. It was more a reaffirmation of her attractiveness and her femininity — her proving to herself that she was still an attractive,sexy, and sexual woman, who could bring a younger man to attention. Each time she “said thank you” she was proving to herself that she was worthwhile. Nothing like the inattention of a spouse to make one doubt oneself. (Been there, done that.) I guess that’s why I understand her so well.