Valentine’s Day. It’s about love, but it’s also about no love. (www.dicksummer.com/podcast ) A buddy of mine recently told me his wife left him…after 20 years. Here’s part of his e-mail: “We’ve talked about how infidelity would forever change our relationship, and probably end it. But I swear if she came to me tonight and told me the truth, and said she’d rather be with me than with him, I’d suspend that stupid statement…I love her more than I love my beliefs about the perfect relationship. I want a life with her more than I want revenge for something that was probably, at least in part, my own fault.” My buddy is a good guy. And I think I hear at least a little hope in that heartbroken note. And that’s good. I think love is pretty simple. You’re either in it or you’re not. But loving…what you do with that love…that can get pretty complicated. There’s all kinds of loving.
